It starts somewhere

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It’s the same sunset, but you can watch it over and over again

If you were to tell me a couple of years ago that I’d be stressing out over wedding plans right now, I wouldn’t even have laughed at you because I’d have thought you were talking to your friend next to me or something.

This stressing out over wedding plans is new to me, so I suppose the unusual situation of being thousands of miles away from home less than a month out from one’s own wedding just adds to the novelty of the whole thing.

There are so many things to plan, so many details to consider. And something as simple as what to say when offering a toast at dinner has me in knots (hur hur – tie knot mah, hor?) I can’t just wing it with this one. And you know what? I love the fact I’m not able to wing it.

You can’t wing a speech, really – you’ll end up saying something, a nothing, like, ‘I’d like to thank my wife, without whom this would not have been possible’, and/or ‘I’d like to thank my parents, I love you, haha, without whom I would not be here’.

I’m in knots over what to say, because my wife to be deserves something said that can’t be just put in words. And she knows what I mean, because she reads my blog at least half a dozen times a day and she knows when I write something, and when I write nothings. (She’ll also restrain herself from smacking idiots who leave nasty or irrelevant comments).

I’ve also got a real champion of a best friend whom I’ve just remembered should be the best man, and when I asked him how one should go about doing the tea ceremony thing, he said, “brb, I Google tea ceremony”.

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48 thoughts on “It starts somewhere”

  1. Awwww. Congratulations.

    Things always gets messy when you approach the one-month-before-wedding period. Calm down, ask married people for advice. 🙂

  2. Awwww. Congratulations.

    Things always gets messy when you approach the one-month-before-wedding period. Calm down, ask married people for advice. 🙂

  3. CONGRATULATIONS! its sure a day to remember (make sure u do, if not u know who’ll come after you haha), worth every effort put in!

  4. CONGRATULATIONS! its sure a day to remember (make sure u do, if not u know who’ll come after you haha), worth every effort put in!

  5. Wow! Congratulations! Have you been keeping this under wraps until now?!

    If you need some help/ideas, I can provide assistance since I’ve has experience handling my own wedding and a couple of friends’. Just send me a mail eh.

  6. Wow! Congratulations! Have you been keeping this under wraps until now?!

    If you need some help/ideas, I can provide assistance since I’ve has experience handling my own wedding and a couple of friends’. Just send me a mail eh.

  7. Congrats!! My advice, “Never forget why you fell in love with her, and you’ll always be in bliss.”

    haha, the part “brb, I Google tea ceremony”~ had me laughing.

  8. Congrats!! My advice, “Never forget why you fell in love with her, and you’ll always be in bliss.”

    haha, the part “brb, I Google tea ceremony”~ had me laughing.

  9. I DID Google ‘tea ceremony’!

    And it was rather helpful, but Mr Egoholic’s Anonymous (Mr STB) himself has offered to give suggestions.

    I don’t suppose Long Island Tea can right?

    Can you faster come back so I can get you fitted for your suit!!!!

  10. I DID Google ‘tea ceremony’!

    And it was rather helpful, but Mr Egoholic’s Anonymous (Mr STB) himself has offered to give suggestions.

    I don’t suppose Long Island Tea can right?

    Can you faster come back so I can get you fitted for your suit!!!!

  11. Wah Lau stupid me.
    The above comment was of course NOT written by Mr Miyagi – but his rather blur and sleepy best friend who had to launch the Speak Good English Movement this morning! I’m gonna sleep NOW!

  12. Wah Lau stupid me.
    The above comment was of course NOT written by Mr Miyagi – but his rather blur and sleepy best friend who had to launch the Speak Good English Movement this morning! I’m gonna sleep NOW!

  13. Google Tea Ceremony cracked me up ! but sometimes it’s really an occupational hazard. I google just about anything and everything too !

  14. Google Tea Ceremony cracked me up ! but sometimes it’s really an occupational hazard. I google just about anything and everything too !

  15. Wow… congratulations!!

    Not that I know you, but I’ve been reading this blog for so long I just need to say it! 🙂

  16. Wow… congratulations!!

    Not that I know you, but I’ve been reading this blog for so long I just need to say it! 🙂

  17. Poor Mr Miyagi!
    A traditional tea ceremony happens at both the guy & girl’s families. When u go pick up your wife, u will need to offer up tea to her parents and grandparents first. This is to thank them for taking care of your wife and also for them to say the “u better treat my daughter/ granddaughter well or ur body will be floating in kallang river!!” Traditionally, the ceremony is conducted by an aunty. Not just any aunty, she has to be someone who have lead a prosper life (good marriage, many kids, etc etc). She will be the one holding the tea cups and passing them to u and ur wife while u kneel/ stand before ur in-laws to serve the tea. As u do that, she will say good auspicious words like “many many kids in the future” or “a wonderful marriage” etc etc. And there is two ways of serving up the tea. 1 way is to hold the cup with ur wife and serve it together to your father in law then your mother in law (in this way, u only use 2 tea cups). The other way, is for you to serve up the tea to your in-laws and then ur wife to do so (this way, u use 4 tea cups) The tea u use is the sweet red date tea. (u can brew urself or buy instant ones from chinatown. The tea is sweet to symbolise “tian tian mi mi”, sweet happiness for the marriage. And after all this trouble, u will receive ang bows or jewellery(usually for ur wife lah!). And then u can take ur wife home and do the same thing at your parents’ place.
    Hope that it clear ur mind abt the tea ceremony. Drop me an email if u need more help. 😀

  18. Poor Mr Miyagi!
    A traditional tea ceremony happens at both the guy & girl’s families. When u go pick up your wife, u will need to offer up tea to her parents and grandparents first. This is to thank them for taking care of your wife and also for them to say the “u better treat my daughter/ granddaughter well or ur body will be floating in kallang river!!” Traditionally, the ceremony is conducted by an aunty. Not just any aunty, she has to be someone who have lead a prosper life (good marriage, many kids, etc etc). She will be the one holding the tea cups and passing them to u and ur wife while u kneel/ stand before ur in-laws to serve the tea. As u do that, she will say good auspicious words like “many many kids in the future” or “a wonderful marriage” etc etc. And there is two ways of serving up the tea. 1 way is to hold the cup with ur wife and serve it together to your father in law then your mother in law (in this way, u only use 2 tea cups). The other way, is for you to serve up the tea to your in-laws and then ur wife to do so (this way, u use 4 tea cups) The tea u use is the sweet red date tea. (u can brew urself or buy instant ones from chinatown. The tea is sweet to symbolise “tian tian mi mi”, sweet happiness for the marriage. And after all this trouble, u will receive ang bows or jewellery(usually for ur wife lah!). And then u can take ur wife home and do the same thing at your parents’ place.
    Hope that it clear ur mind abt the tea ceremony. Drop me an email if u need more help. 😀

  19. This is great news, it proves u arent committment phobic – yes we did think that . And I hv to say this : Do kick the smoking habit, take care of ur health, its no longer juz abt U. May d force b wif u, bro!

  20. This is great news, it proves u arent committment phobic – yes we did think that . And I hv to say this : Do kick the smoking habit, take care of ur health, its no longer juz abt U. May d force b wif u, bro!

  21. Been away from your blog for a while now, and back just in time to read about this piece of great news. Congrats, and all the best!

  22. Been away from your blog for a while now, and back just in time to read about this piece of great news. Congrats, and all the best!

  23. thought i heard my name being mentioned somewhere in webspace…followed the wonderful sound and it led me here! miyagi…congrats! wonderful wedding, beautiful speech you gave. speaking of tea ceremonies…you know my acronym spells T.E.H right? why never come to me for help?

  24. thought i heard my name being mentioned somewhere in webspace…followed the wonderful sound and it led me here! miyagi…congrats! wonderful wedding, beautiful speech you gave. speaking of tea ceremonies…you know my acronym spells T.E.H right? why never come to me for help?

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