It starts somewhere

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It’s the same sunset, but you can watch it over and over again

If you were to tell me a couple of years ago that I’d be stressing out over wedding plans right now, I wouldn’t even have laughed at you because I’d have thought you were talking to your friend next to me or something.

This stressing out over wedding plans is new to me, so I suppose the unusual situation of being thousands of miles away from home less than a month out from one’s own wedding just adds to the novelty of the whole thing.

There are so many things to plan, so many details to consider. And something as simple as what to say when offering a toast at dinner has me in knots (hur hur – tie knot mah, hor?) I can’t just wing it with this one. And you know what? I love the fact I’m not able to wing it.

You can’t wing a speech, really – you’ll end up saying something, a nothing, like, ‘I’d like to thank my wife, without whom this would not have been possible’, and/or ‘I’d like to thank my parents, I love you, haha, without whom I would not be here’.

I’m in knots over what to say, because my wife to be deserves something said that can’t be just put in words. And she knows what I mean, because she reads my blog at least half a dozen times a day and she knows when I write something, and when I write nothings. (She’ll also restrain herself from smacking idiots who leave nasty or irrelevant comments).

I’ve also got a real champion of a best friend whom I’ve just remembered should be the best man, and when I asked him how one should go about doing the tea ceremony thing, he said, “brb, I Google tea ceremony”.

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48 responses to “It starts somewhere”

  1. geroithe Avatar
    geroithe

    Awwww. Congratulations.

    Things always gets messy when you approach the one-month-before-wedding period. Calm down, ask married people for advice. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. geroithe Avatar
    geroithe

    Awwww. Congratulations.

    Things always gets messy when you approach the one-month-before-wedding period. Calm down, ask married people for advice. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. PM Avatar

    That’s good news.. Congratulations! It’s still a once-in-a-lifetime joy to be preparing for marriage…

  4. PM Avatar

    That’s good news.. Congratulations! It’s still a once-in-a-lifetime joy to be preparing for marriage…

  5. tarmack Avatar
    tarmack

    CONGRATULATIONS! its sure a day to remember (make sure u do, if not u know who’ll come after you haha), worth every effort put in!

  6. tarmack Avatar
    tarmack

    CONGRATULATIONS! its sure a day to remember (make sure u do, if not u know who’ll come after you haha), worth every effort put in!

  7. yl Avatar

    breathe in… breathe out… good!! just remember to breathe… you will get through it. ๐Ÿ™‚ congratulations!

  8. yl Avatar

    breathe in… breathe out… good!! just remember to breathe… you will get through it. ๐Ÿ™‚ congratulations!

  9. Shelly Avatar

    Wow! Congratulations! Have you been keeping this under wraps until now?!

    If you need some help/ideas, I can provide assistance since I’ve has experience handling my own wedding and a couple of friends’. Just send me a mail eh.

  10. Shelly Avatar

    Wow! Congratulations! Have you been keeping this under wraps until now?!

    If you need some help/ideas, I can provide assistance since I’ve has experience handling my own wedding and a couple of friends’. Just send me a mail eh.

  11. Lincoln Avatar
    Lincoln

    Alright man…. congratulations !!!!

  12. Lincoln Avatar
    Lincoln

    Alright man…. congratulations !!!!

  13. Gil Avatar
    Gil

    Congrats!! My advice, “Never forget why you fell in love with her, and you’ll always be in bliss.”

    haha, the part “brb, I Google tea ceremony”~ had me laughing.

  14. Gil Avatar
    Gil

    Congrats!! My advice, “Never forget why you fell in love with her, and you’ll always be in bliss.”

    haha, the part “brb, I Google tea ceremony”~ had me laughing.

  15. Mr Miyagi Avatar

    I DID Google ‘tea ceremony’!

    And it was rather helpful, but Mr Egoholic’s Anonymous (Mr STB) himself has offered to give suggestions.

    I don’t suppose Long Island Tea can right?

    Can you faster come back so I can get you fitted for your suit!!!!

  16. Mr Miyagi Avatar

    I DID Google ‘tea ceremony’!

    And it was rather helpful, but Mr Egoholic’s Anonymous (Mr STB) himself has offered to give suggestions.

    I don’t suppose Long Island Tea can right?

    Can you faster come back so I can get you fitted for your suit!!!!

  17. Hossan Avatar

    Wah Lau stupid me.
    The above comment was of course NOT written by Mr Miyagi – but his rather blur and sleepy best friend who had to launch the Speak Good English Movement this morning! I’m gonna sleep NOW!

  18. Hossan Avatar

    Wah Lau stupid me.
    The above comment was of course NOT written by Mr Miyagi – but his rather blur and sleepy best friend who had to launch the Speak Good English Movement this morning! I’m gonna sleep NOW!

  19. bobochacha Avatar
    bobochacha

    Google Tea Ceremony cracked me up ! but sometimes it’s really an occupational hazard. I google just about anything and everything too !

  20. bobochacha Avatar
    bobochacha

    Google Tea Ceremony cracked me up ! but sometimes it’s really an occupational hazard. I google just about anything and everything too !

  21. ed Avatar
    ed

    Hey, congrats. God bless with your wedding plans. =)

  22. ed Avatar
    ed

    Hey, congrats. God bless with your wedding plans. =)

  23. smazh Avatar
    smazh

    Wow… congratulations!!

    Not that I know you, but I’ve been reading this blog for so long I just need to say it! ๐Ÿ™‚

  24. smazh Avatar
    smazh

    Wow… congratulations!!

    Not that I know you, but I’ve been reading this blog for so long I just need to say it! ๐Ÿ™‚

  25. chillipadi Avatar
    chillipadi

    Poor Mr Miyagi!
    A traditional tea ceremony happens at both the guy & girl’s families. When u go pick up your wife, u will need to offer up tea to her parents and grandparents first. This is to thank them for taking care of your wife and also for them to say the “u better treat my daughter/ granddaughter well or ur body will be floating in kallang river!!” Traditionally, the ceremony is conducted by an aunty. Not just any aunty, she has to be someone who have lead a prosper life (good marriage, many kids, etc etc). She will be the one holding the tea cups and passing them to u and ur wife while u kneel/ stand before ur in-laws to serve the tea. As u do that, she will say good auspicious words like “many many kids in the future” or “a wonderful marriage” etc etc. And there is two ways of serving up the tea. 1 way is to hold the cup with ur wife and serve it together to your father in law then your mother in law (in this way, u only use 2 tea cups). The other way, is for you to serve up the tea to your in-laws and then ur wife to do so (this way, u use 4 tea cups) The tea u use is the sweet red date tea. (u can brew urself or buy instant ones from chinatown. The tea is sweet to symbolise “tian tian mi mi”, sweet happiness for the marriage. And after all this trouble, u will receive ang bows or jewellery(usually for ur wife lah!). And then u can take ur wife home and do the same thing at your parents’ place.
    Hope that it clear ur mind abt the tea ceremony. Drop me an email if u need more help. ๐Ÿ˜€

  26. chillipadi Avatar
    chillipadi

    Poor Mr Miyagi!
    A traditional tea ceremony happens at both the guy & girl’s families. When u go pick up your wife, u will need to offer up tea to her parents and grandparents first. This is to thank them for taking care of your wife and also for them to say the “u better treat my daughter/ granddaughter well or ur body will be floating in kallang river!!” Traditionally, the ceremony is conducted by an aunty. Not just any aunty, she has to be someone who have lead a prosper life (good marriage, many kids, etc etc). She will be the one holding the tea cups and passing them to u and ur wife while u kneel/ stand before ur in-laws to serve the tea. As u do that, she will say good auspicious words like “many many kids in the future” or “a wonderful marriage” etc etc. And there is two ways of serving up the tea. 1 way is to hold the cup with ur wife and serve it together to your father in law then your mother in law (in this way, u only use 2 tea cups). The other way, is for you to serve up the tea to your in-laws and then ur wife to do so (this way, u use 4 tea cups) The tea u use is the sweet red date tea. (u can brew urself or buy instant ones from chinatown. The tea is sweet to symbolise “tian tian mi mi”, sweet happiness for the marriage. And after all this trouble, u will receive ang bows or jewellery(usually for ur wife lah!). And then u can take ur wife home and do the same thing at your parents’ place.
    Hope that it clear ur mind abt the tea ceremony. Drop me an email if u need more help. ๐Ÿ˜€

  27. dingdang Avatar
    dingdang

    This is great news, it proves u arent committment phobic – yes we did think that . And I hv to say this : Do kick the smoking habit, take care of ur health, its no longer juz abt U. May d force b wif u, bro!

  28. dingdang Avatar
    dingdang

    This is great news, it proves u arent committment phobic – yes we did think that . And I hv to say this : Do kick the smoking habit, take care of ur health, its no longer juz abt U. May d force b wif u, bro!

  29. denzuko1 Avatar

    Wah! getting wed, which hotel are you going for for your Dinner? I recommend Hyatt Regency, they give you 2 days stay instead of one.

  30. denzuko1 Avatar

    Wah! getting wed, which hotel are you going for for your Dinner? I recommend Hyatt Regency, they give you 2 days stay instead of one.

  31. Jav Avatar

    hey Miyagi, congrats with your wedding plan! hurray!

  32. Jav Avatar

    hey Miyagi, congrats with your wedding plan! hurray!

  33. 9 Avatar

    congrats man!

    you gonna demonstrate any rugby moves during the wedding? heh heh

    =)

  34. 9 Avatar

    congrats man!

    you gonna demonstrate any rugby moves during the wedding? heh heh

    =)

  35. eastcoastlife Avatar

    Congratulations!

  36. eastcoastlife Avatar

    Congratulations!

  37. teckwyn Avatar

    Simple. Just hold your wedding on a Monday morning and inform everyone one about it the week before. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  38. teckwyn Avatar

    Simple. Just hold your wedding on a Monday morning and inform everyone one about it the week before. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  39. kitty Avatar
    kitty

    Ooh nice! Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚

  40. kitty Avatar
    kitty

    Ooh nice! Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚

  41. Eh-choo mui mui Avatar

    who knew! congrats!

  42. Eh-choo mui mui Avatar

    who knew! congrats!

  43. YJ Avatar

    Been away from your blog for a while now, and back just in time to read about this piece of great news. Congrats, and all the best!

  44. YJ Avatar

    Been away from your blog for a while now, and back just in time to read about this piece of great news. Congrats, and all the best!

  45. dave Avatar
    dave

    “deng… deng… deng dend!” Congrats old man!

  46. dave Avatar
    dave

    “deng… deng… deng dend!” Congrats old man!

  47. The Egoholic Himself Avatar
    The Egoholic Himself

    thought i heard my name being mentioned somewhere in webspace…followed the wonderful sound and it led me here! miyagi…congrats! wonderful wedding, beautiful speech you gave. speaking of tea ceremonies…you know my acronym spells T.E.H right? why never come to me for help?

  48. The Egoholic Himself Avatar
    The Egoholic Himself

    thought i heard my name being mentioned somewhere in webspace…followed the wonderful sound and it led me here! miyagi…congrats! wonderful wedding, beautiful speech you gave. speaking of tea ceremonies…you know my acronym spells T.E.H right? why never come to me for help?

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